What does it take to step into a completely new version of yourself? What happens when you stop hiding your struggles and allow yourself to be seen? How might your relationships change when you finally choose yourself?
In this podcast episode, Jennifer Froemel discusses stepping into transformation to create mental wealth and relational health with Joyce Marter.
Meet Joyce Marter
Joyce Marter is a licensed psychotherapist, entrepreneur, and internationally recognized keynote speaker specializing in mental health, emotional resilience, and the psychology of money. She is the founder of Urban Balance, a multi-location counseling practice she grew and later sold, and the author of The Financial Mindset Fix. With over 25 years of experience, Joyce works with individuals and organizations to improve wellbeing, leadership, and financial mindset, and her insights have been featured in major media including CNN, Forbes, and The Wall Street Journal.
Visit Joyce’s website and connect on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.
In This Podcast:
- From private practice to public speaking
- Overcoming the fear of being seen in a new light
- Joyce’s advice to listeners in relationships
From private practice to public speaking
For Joyce, the pivot from private practice to public speaking was a tumultuous and painful journey.
Leading up to her work as a public speaker, Joyce had to reckon with herself, dive deep into her fears, and commit to some decisions that she never thought she would have to make to move forward more freely.
That was a pivotal moment of transformation for me that really broke me open. I lost my business partner, who was one of my best friends, and was facing bankruptcy. It was then that I practiced what we preach, and I turned inward, and worked on myself and my own psychology of money, and my own inner healing psycho-spiritually.
Joyce Marter
Even though Joyce didn’t want to let go of her practice, she realized that she had to release that responsibility. She knew she had to free herself and chart a course toward her purpose.
Overcoming the fear of being seen in a new light
It was enormously healing and powerful. I had been suffering in shame and silence, and once I started sharing with people, it transformed everything.
Joyce Marter
When Joyce began to open up to her team about the practice’s financial situation, it was terrifying at first, but it finally allowed her to unearth suppressed emotions she had been carrying, enabling healing and solutions to follow.
We often compare our insides to other people’s outsides, and I’ve found that when I’ve talked openly about my struggles, other people come forward and they say, “Oh my gosh, I’ve been there too.
Joyce Marter
And, when Joyce gave one of her first keynotes and shared what she had experienced in her previous practice, as well as the fact that she was going through a divorce, she encountered a long line of attendees who all wanted to speak with her after the event.
It showed her that real vulnerability draws out the same in others, and that everyone is struggling with something beneath the surface, which can only come to light when honesty is allowed, given, and encouraged.
Joyce’s advice to listeners in relationships
Start and continue with your personal therapy first. Learning about yourself on a deeper level will give you so much more to work with when it comes to knowing yourself in a relationship with your partner.
Additionally, consider couples therapy, and not only when things are tough. It is a wonderful resource to help you and your partner learn the skills that not everyone is taught, on how to communicate, listen to understand, and repair ruptures.
For me, I realized that I was experiencing a psychological death in the context of [my first] marriage. I would’ve given myself a lobotomy to be happy and keep my family together, but I had to come to the place of acceptance that I was really suffering, and I had to care enough about myself to say something and do something.
Joyce Marter
Thirdly, as women, think about what YOU need. A lot of women stay stuck in unfulfilling relationships due to the fear of judgment from others.
To combat this, Joyce used a mantra to keep herself grounded and focused on her own life. The mantra was: “I deserve a loving, present, and mutually supportive partner.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED AND USEFUL LINKS
BOOK | Joyce Marter, LCPC – The Financial Mindset Fix: A Mental Fitness Program for an Abundant Life
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ABOUT THE FEAR OF CHANGE PODCAST
Change can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. The Fear of Change podcast is all about helping you embrace change and live a more fulfilling life. Hosted by Jennifer Froemel, LCPC, a therapist with nearly 30 years of experience, we cover topics like mental wellness, holistic health, and improving relationships.
Jennifer’s down-to-earth approach makes it easy to understand why we fear change and how to move past those fears. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, relationship issues, or just feeling stuck, there’s something here for you.
