What if healing isn’t about becoming someone new? Have you ever felt like you’ve lost touch with yourself while caring for everyone else? Could curiosity, rather than fear, guide you back to who you’ve always been?
In this podcast episode, Jennifer Froemel introduces coming home to yourself | prelude
In This Podcast:
- Why coming home to yourself is healing
- Going deeper into the feeling
- Invite and use curiosity
Why coming home to yourself is healing
We don’t heal by becoming someone else. We heal by remembering who we’ve been beneath fear, expectations, and a lifelong habit of performing for belonging.
Jennifer Froemel
These moments of coming home to yourself don’t arrive with great fanfare; they often bring you back to yourself gently, as an invitation.
As a wife, mother, daughter, and parent, you may find that these roles help you live a life with meaning and purpose, but there need to be moments when you can just be yourself and find meaning that isn’t tied to what you do for someone else.
It is in those moments that you can connect to who you are on a deeper level, and come home to your inner world.
Going deeper into the feeling
Jennifer works with so many women who struggle with feeling lost touch with themselves, and one common thing they say is, “I feel empty.”
he more I heard those words, the more I realized something important: these women weren’t broken, these women weren’t failing, they weren’t weak, but they had simply spent so many years becoming everything everyone else needed. Somewhere along the way, they stopped noticing themselves, and perhaps that is the greatest tragedy … that we slowly become invisible to ourselves.
Jennifer Froemel
For a long time, Jennifer believed that in therapy, the role of the therapist was to help the client think differently, communicate and heal differently.
However, Jennifer discovered that the role of therapy was more about allowing space for someone to remember who they are beneath everything else, and come home to that person.
After thousands of conversations, I realized something much deeper was happening … [and that] what they longed for was something different: they longed for someone who would sit beside them for long enough to help them remember who they were before fear became their curiosity.
Jennifer Froemel
The most important thing that Jennifer offers her clients when they go deeper into the feeling is to be curious about who they were, who they truly are, and how to reconnect with that person.
Invite and use curiosity
So, you don’t have to be fearless, because fear is part of being human, and you can learn to work around and with your fear.
But, for you to really dive into this wonderful positive change and come back home to yourself, be curious. Use curiosity, not fear, as the driving force behind you exploring who you are again.
Be curious about the younger version of yourself who learned how to survive the world you lived in because awareness isn’t about blame; awareness is about understanding, and understanding creates compassion, first for ourselves and then for others.
Jennifer Froemel
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ABOUT THE FEAR OF CHANGE PODCAST
Change can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. The Fear of Change podcast is all about helping you embrace change and live a more fulfilling life. Hosted by Jennifer Froemel, LCPC, a therapist with nearly 30 years of experience, we cover topics like mental wellness, holistic health, and improving relationships.
Jennifer’s down-to-earth approach makes it easy to understand why we fear change and how to move past those fears. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, relationship issues, or just feeling stuck, there’s something here for you.
